Today was my small lady’s last therapy session. She has been going for a year now to help her transition from Junior to Senior school. It’s worked.
I have been incredibly fortunate. The Local Authority (LA) post adoption team applied for funding and got it. I did not adopt through this LA – they didn’t know me or my child but they too saw an opeertunity for early intervention.
She got to talk to someone about friendships and how to create and let go of them. About the importance of who and how she chooses to tell her story to. Support during a time when her sibling was feeling unable to continue with contact. Guidance and sometimes a telling off for behaviours at home that at times spiralled. To create a sleep routine that worked for us both. She was listened to, and she listened. She said she wanted to make her life better and I was so lucky that someone who could fund this made it happen.
Her year 7 has been a success. Compared with Primary she’s shone. Hit her educational targets and made friends. I chose to send her to a school where none of her primary school friends were going. Where she could be who she is now and not a list of “unacceptable” behaviours her move to me created. She didn’t have a label at her new school. It’s a move that’s paid off.
The LA have also agreed to fund me having ongoing contact with the therapist despite my daughter no longer going. So that I can continue to get support on issues that may crop up, help me deal with the unexpected.
I’m posting this because I want people to know early intervention helps. Funding therapy is crucial to successful outcomes. I’m aware that there are so many families who don’t get the help they need. Where early intervention could have changed outcomes. Where LAs don’t support adopters. I would love this to change. For access to be available – for people to feel it’s ok to ask for outside help – and if they do ask that they will get it. For it not to be a postcode lottery.
I’m not deluded. I have a feeling therapy will probably play a role in our future – this isn’t the end of complex emotions and crisis points but for now my daughter is happy that her therapist has said she’s doing well, that she doesn’t need to see her anymore. That she should be proud of her year 7.
I hope somewhere inside she is proud, even though she finds it hard to show it.